6 Signs You’re Trying to Hard to Get The Guy & Need to Chill

Are you one of those people that jumps for joy at the mere prospect of a relationship and plans their whole life towards getting into a relationship as fast as possible? Well, maybe you need to take a step back and take a look at your own actions. If you think you may need to chill out and take things a bit slower, you’ll probably recognize yourself a lot in this article.

Matching With Everyone

You’re probably thinking there’s no way to tell if someone is right for you through a handful of pictures and a short bio, right? And while that’s technically true, matching with everyone pretty much means that you’re putting more weight into actually having a relationship than thinking about who you want to have that relationship with. You’re not scared of missing out on someone good, you’re scared of being alone. You probably find yourself often talking to a match and instantly realising you don’t even want to talk to this person, right? Quality over quantity, people.

Asking Way Too Much Questions

You’re building a relationship, not applying for a job. A conversation needs to flow naturally and questions – intelligent and original questions – only serve the purpose of getting that conversation started. There’s nothing more annoying than constantly having to answer question after question and your matches will move over to someone else if you keep doing this. Just talk about how your day was and what you did. If you have boring days and don’t do anything at all, maybe that’s on you and you need to work on that.

Constantly Logging In

Do you find yourself constantly checking your phone for messages and opening your app to see if you have any new matches? Is it even so bad that when you find no new matches, it ruins your whole day? Well then you’re just trying too hard to work towards that relationship. Not having any matches means you have more time to put into the people that do want to be with you and see where your connection goes. And it also gives you more me time, which is probably going to become very valuable once you actually have that relationship. Enjoy it while it lasts.

You Share Too Much

For some reason you can’t resist sharing all your deepest and darkest secrets with someone within the first few days of you talking. I’m not saying you don’t need to do some sharing if you’re going to build a connection with someone, but you can definitely leave most of the stuff for a few months down the road when you’ve got a solid foundation built for your relationship.

You Always Text First

There’s nothing wrong with taking some initiative every once in a while, but you do have to make sure you’re giving your texting partner a chance of being the one to start a conversation as well. It’s gonna be cute at first, but it’s gonna become annoying very, very fast. And it could also just flat-out mean that the other person isn’t interested in having a conversation with you.

Freeing Up Time Just In Case

There’s just nothing weirder than dating with someone who is free all the time. If you’re going to be keeping your weekends open just in case your date wants to hang out, it’s sort of creepy. And don’t forget that it’s going to make you look very uninteresting as you’re pretty much sending the message that you never have anything to do anyway.